You cannot clap with one hand

I decided to put as much effort into contacting you as you do with me – that’s why we don’t talk anymore.

By now, you would have got a hint as to what this post is going to talk about.

When I typed “one-sided relationships” on Google, a lot of pieces popped up. It felt as if they were waiting for someone to type that out for them so that they could mark their attendance. πŸ˜›

I’m sure that every one of you would have come across such people or relationships (which could be friendships too) in life. I have personally been in such relationships wherein, I have experienced how it feels to be on both ends (with different people of course).

Not all the relationships start out one-sided, but may end that way. Being single can make you feel lonely at times, but that doesn’t mean you’ve got a guarantee card when you’re in a relationship. You can be lonely during that phase are well. There can be an emotional distance between 2 people.

In such cases, ending the relationship isn’t the only solution. Because, making a relationship may take months but breaking it takes a second. You may want to try fixing it. But for that my dear, your partner has to be an active participant too. You alone cannot mend the damage that’s already done.

Somewhere midway, there are also various marriages that turn out to be one-sided. One of them might want OUT, while the other one would want the marriage to stay, which isn’t healthy.

BEST RELATIONSHIP: Talk like BEST FRIENDS, play like CHILDREN, argue like HUSBAND and WIFE and protect each other like BROTHER and SISTER.

We tend to focus on the problems rather than the person. Keeping score is for games, not relationships. That is where the main problem begins when we start counting favors. Doing this is only going to end up hurting you.

Sometimes, we need to become really selfless and kick our pride aside. It is easier said than done, but the results could be worth the efforts too. Instead of focusing on your partner, focus on what you can improve on. It definitely needs two people working on it together, but someone has to be the brave one.

Never give up on something you really want. It’s difficult to wait but it’s more difficult to regret. – Askia Jones on Twitter

Sometimes, you need to step into the other person’s shoes and look at things from their point of view. If your partner really didn’t want to be with you, he/she would have left you by now. Something is keeping you both together and that, is a big positive sign.

All you need to do is, express gratitude for the small things and you may end up getting bigger things in return. Find out what’s keeping you guys together and nourish it with love, care, and selflessness (I’m trying to do the same to a few relations that were spoiled in the past).

One very important thing to also keep in mind is that, in the process of doing all this, you must not forget who you are. You must remember that you are important too, and it’ll be no use if you end up being a hot-mess by focusing too much on them and the relationship. You shouldn’t lose yourself and if you feel that’s happening, it’s better to walk away than watch yourself getting burnt; BECAUSE you are a priority for yourself first (and then somebody else’s’).

Lastly, I would like to quote something that reminds me of my experiences.

Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one-sided expectations may mentally destroy you.

*On special request πŸ™‚

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  1. Some souls that have been mean to others will surely get flashbacks after reading this one 😬 & that’s for certain!!
    Thankyou for the flashbacks….πŸ˜‚

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  2. Beautiful post.
    It definitely is true to live for yourself. But, when you live for someone you really love and s/He comes back to you with the same love is the best feeling ever πŸ™‚ . It can be for any relationship, just like our mom lives for us and we return the love back to her… β™₯
    Amazing content. Made absolute sense…keep writing and I know you’ll come out to be an AMAZING writer in the coming future ☺

    All the best for the future and wish you all the success for future β™₯

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